Capitalist Note: Quick hit today from the BOSS Leadership Series, the 7-module series of manager training designed to make your managers better leaders of people!
I see you and I sense it. You've got an escalating situation - either inside your own team that you manage, via cross-departmental relationships or interacting with clients. Things are spiraling and it seems like you can't get ahead.
I'm not embedded with you, so the reasons for the spiral can be many, right? But let's assume for the sake of this post that you're on top of your game, the path you're pursuing is valid and correct, you've got the talent to deliver, etc. You're just getting chopped up repeatedly as you deal with your team, other departments, and/or clients. You just can't seem to get ahead of it.
I'm going to give you one small thing to experiment with to regain control:
Start sending out Agendas for the meetings you're holding. As a senior level course, send some reports with favorable data/info with the agenda for best results.
Meetings suck. They suck more when you're the host and you lose control of them.
Agendas let everyone know what you're going to go through in the meeting. They allow you to be in control, and they allow you to bring wayward conversations back to what you - the organizer - wanted to accomplish.
Data/Info sent with agendas that's favorable to your cause/goals help you establish credibility. To the extent you have enemies in the mix or people who don't agree with your approach, data and info sent with agendas can help you frame the narrative.
It's easy to hijack a meeting away from someone who's not prepared. It's harder when they sent the agenda.
It's even harder when they share an agenda with some reports and info that suggests their path is valid.
Control the narrative and prevent meeting hijacking by sending an agenda. Start with no more than 5 items, each described in 4 words or less.
The floor is now yours. You're welcome.