My best friend Tim Sackett is an expert on workplace hugging.
Tim even incorporates hugging into his speaking appearances. When you go to watch him speak, get ready for what I like to call the “Tim Sackett package”. He starts by announcing himself as the world’s leading authority on workplace hugging, shows a picture of him and his dog Scout (with Scout licking his face), then invites an audience member up to show what a warm workplace hug looks like with a willing partner (which is usually a woman, because guys don't want to hug).
As an expert in workplace hugging, Tim's next chapter should be to save the world from bad guy-to-guy hugs. If he agreed to do this, he would be the hero we need in a broken world.
When you greet a guy professionally - as a guy - you've got two choices:
--Standard handshake. Hard to go wrong there.
--Man to Man business hug. Hold up. This ###* is broken in today's workplace. How many disjointed attempts at this have you seen in the workplace? I've seen a lot. The worst usually involves white guys. But regardless of the Title 7 combos you throw into a man-to-man hug, the most important thing is that both parties know how it's going to go down.
If both parties don't know the rules of a man-to-man hug, one of the those parties is going to get awkward - like they're trying to get down to the latest Migos (shoutout to the ATL) cut at CPA convention. Which begs the question about how Migos ever ended up on a playlist involving CPAs. But I digress.
THERE ARE RULES TO PARTICIPATING AND EXECUTING A MAN-HUG IN A PROFESSIONAL SETTING.
It's OK. Here we go:
1--Start with a Soul Shake.
2--Move Soul Shake in and up to your front right shoulder. (Note - your right shoulder should be across from your target's right shoulder and now almost touching your partners shoulder, but your soul shake is in the way)
3--Now that you're in side hugging position, give a light back slap with free left hand.
4--Release within 1-2 seconds.
5--Proceed with meeting on the Berkowitz Project.
It's in the manual people. Let's get our #### together on this and stop looking uncomfortable.
UPDATE - My Twitter friend Vadim Liberman reminds me to expect different hugs from gay men. Good point, see his advice here and here. My experience tells me a hug between and gay and straight man goes better than most between two straight guys, if only because one party is at ease and knows how he wants to hug.