In response to my post last week about Business Travel Having a Drinking Problem, I got this question...
I have watched too many loved ones struggle with alcohol so I do not drink. (I too engaged in the past in enough to cover me for a while) Plus, I like bringing my "a game" and I cant do that when I am hung over! What advice would you give to someone who feels their career advancement has been negatively impacted for not "going drinking with the boys" - or "having a few with the team" - I used to excuse myself and pull aside the bar tender or server and ask them to bring me glasses of apple juice (since lt looks like beer) but that can be tough to pull off
Good question. There's always the threat of not being on the inside of team dynamics if you don't drink. I think your instincts are right, you have to engage and be there if that scene is important at your company/within your team. Here's my list of thoughts related to how to deal with it:
1. Have a drink in your hand but nurse that ****** ****** all night long. Get a beer in a dark ass bottle (going with the technical term there) where no one can see the consumption level and make it last two hours. By rounds for others, it will take the focus off the fact that you're running at a clip of one drink per 4 hours.
2. Drink O'Douls. Get a glass to go with it and pour it out of the bottle in a sneaky fashion. Drink the fine pilsner that was never meant to be consumed in volume all night long. Go order it at the bar, pour it in your glass and come back to the group. Act like a fool after three to sell it. Mmmm. #odoulsgoodness
3. Organize drinking outings for the team. You get more grace if you're the equivalent of Julie on the Love Boat. If you don't know who Julie was, let's just say she was the social director on a cruise ship. You should buy the first round as well. You can get inside the team without drinking if you're willing to organize and spend a little bit.
Why is the Love Boat not a Will Ferrel movie?
Option #1 is always best.
That's what I got. Can you make a beer last 3 hours? I can!!