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Today's Career Sermon: Get Out of Your Own Head... (#workhuman)

Capitalist Note:  I'm spending the first couple of days of this week at WorkHuman in Austin.  Put on by Globoforce, WorkHuman is the most progressive HR Conference available, with past shows focused on emerging trends like mindfulness, meditation and more - the leading edge of people practices and how HR can build them.  It's also hard to get a free Diet Coke at WorkHuman, because that stuff is bad for you - but healthy options are available and free.  One of the best shows I attend, highly recommended.

I thought Cy Wakeman won WorkHuman.  Crazy lineup of speakers, Cy didn't have the prime-time slot, but she won.  Intersection of leadership and practical advice.  Thanks Cy.

This post is inspired by Cy Wakeman.

Get out of your own f###ing head at work.  You're making up agendas, politics and intent of the people around you.  Some of it's true, most of it isn't.  And you can't change any of it.

You're wasting time.

You can assume positive intent if that makes you feel better.

A better way to phrase that is that the world isn't out to get you.  The world, even at your own company, barely knows who you are.  You think it's about you.  It's not.  You think it's one way, it's actually the other way.

People are thinking about themselves, not plotting against you.  And yes, a lot of them suck.  But you can't change any of it.

The only thing you can control is you.  So do you and stop wasting time.  

It's probably time to stop analyzing the intent of others.  Let's do great work.

Comments

Matt

Re-iterating and expanding...

HBR has a great book on Difficult Conversations (I think that is the title). One of the things they stress when thinking about someone that is frustrating you is that you should just assume it has nothing to do with you personally because

1. It is probably actually NOT about you.

2. If it is about you, they may just be having a bad day.

3. If they aren't just having a bad day it likely does you no good to think it's about you. Act as if it's not.

--M

Parker Davis

Not an uncommon problem among the current human resources "professional." I continue to observe that HR people are now more interested in "MY" success, "MY" fame, "MY" advancement, etc. The constant worry about what is my title (I mean really, I have had this title for six months, isn't it time to invent a new one? As if HR Business Partner were not confusing enough, let us call ourselves "human capital super leader." Seat at the table, seat at the table, please seat at the table. How about just doing the work? Shouting your greatness from the rooftops only irritates others and devalues your function.

Cy Wakeman

Thanks for an amazing post on my session at WorkHuman this year, Kris! I think it was a great start in changing mindsets and the energy I felt from everyone there was incredible.... thanks for helping to spread the word! #ditchthedrama

Alex D.

Appreciate you spreading the love and for supporting Cy! Thanks for posting your thoughts and for spreading the word on ditching the drama. Hope you keep following along. Thanks for being a fan!

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