--Alfred in Batman
Short post today as you go into the holidays, shut it down and think about 2018.
You've got people in your professional life who love drama. They're wired to create angst, conflict, infighting and many times, they're not even aware they're doing it. It's how they are genetically wired behaviorally. Rather than observing, learning and maximizing themselves in any situation, they create chaos by inviting others to react to their presentation of facts - which are usually drawn to create a reaction - otherwise known as drama. They do this even if it hurts them long term.
If you think about all the players in your life, you can probably identify who these people are.
I'm here today with a new year's resolution for you - don't allow people who love drama to draw a reaction from you in 2018.
What these people hate most is not getting the reaction. There's also learning that goes on as you deny them the combustion they seek. After the 2nd or 3rd time you deny the drama queens and kings the reaction they seek, they'll stop trying to get it from you, and your life will improve.
So that's the resolution. Stop letting the drama people stoke you up. Try giving them a "hmmm" when they stoke you, and instead of participating in a communal rant, try saying the following:
"I'm going to think about that"
"That's interesting. I'm going to ponder that a bit"
"Get the #### out of my office"
That last one is a joke, because that actually creates drama. You should avoid reacting when they try to suck you in at all costs.
Measured response is a good leadership technique, both for the drama lovers and also for people who are bringing you bad news, observations and gossip. Don't get sucked in. Stay calm.
Of course, if you're a leader, of the things you'll have to deal with is drama kings/queens spinning up other drama kings/queens as a normal course of business.
But that's for another day. For today and moving into 2018, the thought is this - don't allow people who love drama to draw a reaction from you in 2018.